Published: March 9, 2014
Independence has a cost
As a junior in high school, I understand the importance and pressure of figuring out what you are going to do once you are out of high school. I understand that it can be intimidating, seeing how much money it will take to go to college, and students might rely on their families for financial support. However, I do not agree with the choice Rachel Canning from New Jersey is making. If she truly voluntarily chose to move out over simple things such as curfew and chores, then she has chosen to be an independent adult. As such, she should not expect to be able to rely on her parents for money, or force them to pay for her education. I'm not saying that she doesn't deserve an education. There are other ways to pay for college. While loans are not preferable, they do give you money for your education, and there are scholarships out there. Independence has a cost, and that cost is having to find your way to make money to pay for things like your education.
Taralyn Walker; Elbert
Both must do a little bending
Re: Lawsuit for support. I can't believe this is even a question. A parent's legal responsibility to their child stops when they are 18 and out of high school. There has never been a requirement to support them in any way past this point in their lives. Parents do not owe their kids a college education, or room and board.
That being said, if the parents are willing to provide room and board and money to one of their adult children, both parties must do a little bending. The parents need to understand that their child is now an adult and should be afforded the freedom of an adult (no curfews, etc). The adult child needs to respect that the parents dictate what goes on under the roof of their house (if they don't want the boyfriend around, he cannot come around). She can meet him elsewhere.
Most important thing for her to remember is that they owe her nothing. This is a very selfish and entitled attitude.
R. Anderson, Colorado Springs
Just a snotty little brat
Re: Teen suing parents. She is emancipated and her parents have no obligation to support her in any way. We do not know if they had a contentious relationship during her upbringing. My opinion is that she is just a snotty little brat who is money-hungry.
Jim Trittin, Colorado Springs
Tragedy lies much deeper
Re: "An Independent Dependent?" This is indeed a sad, even tragic, story.
The judge has made the correct judgment. Can we even imagine the societal chaos that would erupt if any disgruntled child (regardless of her chronological age, she is still a child) could find an opportunistic and greedy lawyer to bring such a suit? Not to mention what this will cost - and who will pay. The parents must have the right to correct the obvious problem they have created in raising an ungrateful, entitled child.
They should have no responsibility to pay these private school or college costs if the child is unwilling to live "by the rules" (assuming they are reasonable, which in this case they seem to be).
But I think the tragedy lies much deeper. This is obviously a family in deep pain and dysfunction (which is no stigma, likely a reality of well-meaning but misplaced effort or priorities.
They need to seek professional counsel, preferably with a spiritual dimension. I think it unlikely the young lady will desire to get such help but they should try. In any case, the parents should seek it themselves for their healing, and to understand how to help their daughter. It's not too late, if everyone will try.
Charles Steen, Colorado Springs
Bigger things to worry about
A Colorado college is asking for the public's help in solving two bicycle thefts that occurred in mid-February.
As a junior in high school, I feel that there are more important things that we should be focused on than two guys stealing bicycles from a college campus.
I am not saying that what they did was OK, but I am simply saying that there are more important things that the public should be aware of.
For example, there are thousands of kids that have gone missing or have been kidnapped.
Those are precious lives that can be taken away or can be harmed. Those are things we should be more concerned about, and that's the kind of thing the community needs to be aware of.
We need to be informed about things that really do matter, and things that are more important to our community. We shouldn't be worried about two bicycles being stolen, as long as no one got hurt, it should not be such a big deal.
I know that if my bicycle were stolen that would be the least of my worries.
Nicole Howard, Colorado Springs