After being widowed for two years, I met a lady who I have been dating for a couple of months. We are both gourmet cooks and she has had me over several times for wonderful dinners. So I want to return the favor. I have several pictures of my wife and family scattered throughout the house. My sister thinks I should take down some of the pictures, especially ones with only me and my wife.
While I want her to feel comfortable, I am not sure this is necessary. What do you think? - Dave
You should do what feels comfortable. Don't put away the pictures if you aren't ready. While your sister likely has your best interest at heart, I don't think it would be unexpected that you would have family pictures, including ones of you and your wife. Focus on making a lovely dinner for your new friend and keep the pictures where they are for now - until, and if, you feel differently.
I recently met a man and our first date was great. We spent several hours together, and I was very excited to see him again. The second date was also great, but after the third date he told me he was not attracted to me.
I know immediately whether I am attracted to someone. Why would it take him three dates to decide? - Teresa
Many do decide right away whether they are attracted to someone, but it's usually the third date that's make or break as far as whether they want to continue to see someone. If someone tells you they are not attracted to you, they are leaving no room for discussion. Trying to figure it out is an exercise in futility, and it usually has more to do with them than you. Move on and don't take it personally.
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