The last two ladies who I have been interested in shared with me on the second or third date that they have tattoos. I don't care for tattoos, especially on women. I decided not to continue dating either. In the future, I want to avoid dating ladies who have tattoos. Is it inappropriate to ask a lady before you meet her, or on the first date, if she has tattoos? - Robert
If you don't want to date someone with a tattoo, you should know sooner rather than later. I don't think it is inappropriate to ask the question, but I don't think it is necessary. Ladies of all ages and socioeconomic levels have tattoos today, so you would be limiting yourself to exclude all of them. The size and number of tattoos also could make a difference. One of the ladies you decided not to date might have a tattoo the size of a dime.
I met a man for the first time and about a half-hour into our meeting his phone rang. He took the call, laughed and told the person he was talking to that everything was OK. After hanging up, he explained that whenever he's meeting someone new, after about 30 minutes his friend calls in case he wants an excuse to leave. He implied that I was lucky because he didn't want to end our meeting. The interest I was feeling went away immediately and I left. He later called to apologize and now wants to take me to dinner to explain. I am on the fence as to whether I should give him another chance. - Lynn
Any time someone tells me they are "on the fence," unless it is something ridiculous, I encourage them to give it another try. I have seen "on the fence" go to marriage. If you don't go, you never will know what could have happened. If nothing else, you might have a nice dinner. My guess is that he is going to say it was his friend's idea, and maybe it was his friend's idea. If you liked him otherwise, give it another try.
Shugrue owns Perfectly Matched. Her column runs biweekly in Home and Family. Visit perfectlymatcheddating.com or email questions to firstname.lastname@example.org.